I was reminded earlier today of a conversation I’d had with a friend a few weeks ago. It was a conversation about drama. Not the “on-stage” drama that has us staying up all night learning our lines, but the drama we unconsciously create and perpetuate in our lives day after day.
The drama of rushing to get out of the house on time, the drama of being stuck in a traffic jam (what are all those people doing on the road anyway!), the drama of arriving late, the drama of breaking a finger nail, the drama of the person in front of you at the deli being soooo slow, the drama of other people’s dramas, and so it goes on!
And, the thing is, most of the time we don’t even realize we are creating all this drama. We think it’s normal, it’s the way life is, it’s always been like that and it always will be like that.
But, how wrong we are!
The day I understood that I had created the drama in my life, and believe me, at times it played like a soap-opera, I set myself free.
When I “consciously chose to consciously choose”, I released myself from my default, software programme which was creating energy-draining drama in my life over and over and over again.
We choose our thoughts, would you agree? There’s nobody else deciding what goes on in our heads and what we choose to believe…
So, if you are living the “stuck in traffic” drama, what’s going on in your head?
Thoughts like, “I’m going to be late”, “ The boss will kill me”, “I’m going to be the last one at the team meeting again”, “How on earth am I going to find the time to drop off the dry-cleaning?”, “That means it will have to wait another day”, “I don’t believe it…”, “How can this be happening to me again”…
Sound familiar? And, who put those thoughts there? Yes, you did!
So, what if you were to “consciously choose” not to run these thoughts but to choose different ones; to choose to perceive your situation differently; to choose to respond to it differently?
Your drama would evaporate!
Situations are what they are. It is how we choose to respond to them that turns them into personal dramas… or not!