Isn’t it true, that so often we resist that which, when faced, provides us with our greatest learning?
We resist the difficult and uncomfortable exactly because, by definition, it is difficult and uncomfortable!
Introducing affirmations, those wonderful little positive statements of intent, which are so easy to use and so powerful, but which can also be surprisingly challenging…
So, here’s the story… I was working with a client the other day on issues surrounding forgiveness and letting go of the past. Now, I’ve often found that forgiveness is a particularly “challenging” concept. The very word forgiveness can provoke a deep-seated emotional response within us which, although fleeting, is surprisingly strong.
I suggested to my client that affirmations would be helpful and I shared with her some powerful affirmations I had used in the past,
I lovingly forgive myself…
I lovingly release the past…
I am free!
She agreed to use them.
Several days later, my client contacts me saying she’s having real problems with the affirmations. She feels pulled back into the past, feelings of guilt are coming up and she doesn’t want to feel guilty and how can she possibly feel free when she is plagued by these past emotions…the spotlights had been switched on!
I was so grateful for my client’s openness and willingness to share her difficulties. It really did shine a light on the true power (and the potential challenges) of affirmations.
The key is that affirmations are written in the present tense. They are about now, the present time.
So, “I lovingly forgive myself” is really saying “I am me and I lovingly accept myself as I am. I forgive myself for any guilt or shame or other negative feelings I have had about myself in the past because I know those feelings do not serve me.”
It is about forgiving yourself for the way you thought about yourself in the past.
When we affirm “I release the past” what we are really saying is “I am here, I am present now and I let go of all negative emotions and feelings I have had about the past because those feelings do not serve me.”
When we connect with the affirmations in this way, the “I am free!” at the end really does make us feel freed!
In order to grow, we often need to get uncomfortable. Making the shifts in consciousness that allow us to transform our lives does not happen when we are sitting snug and warm in our comfort zones!
But, a little discomfort goes a long way and the end rewards are huge…